3 Self Control Activities To Ease Your Anxiety

Can self discipline actually influence and improve your feeling?

Today I sit here on my 215 square feet apartment having my second cup of coffee with a teaspoon of Matcha Green Tea from The Superfood Grocer. On most days I do restrain myself on having a second cup because of my palpitations but today is different. Today I want to talk about self-control and that’s why I need this second cup of Italian Creamy from Culture Blends.

Self-discipline is a vague term manifested through perseverance, restraint of oneself, commitment, all of which boils down to one thing — passing up on immediate gratification in favor of immersing oneself to effort-and-time-comprised activities that will yield satisfying results in the future time.

However, for someone struggling with anxiety, the negligence of self-control relieves stress on the surface level and creates an illusion of peace and calm. In fact, I am no different. Whenever I am bothered by anxious thoughts I find that taking a step away from my supposed tasks for the day induces an instant sedating effect but the problem is by the end of the day, guilt comes into play.

Today I want to share with you my top three self-control activities that I use as a solid guide to keep myself from lounging around too much because guilt-before-bed is something we don’t want to accompany us in our sleep.

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1. Develop a morning ritual

If you haven’t read yet my Daily Slow Living Rituals for Beginners please do because in that post I described the joys of moving at a comfortable pace without rushing, without heavy pressure, but still productive and still you get things done.

The morning ritual for me specifically is where my structure for the day lies and for me to get the most out of my day, I have to control myself from deviating away from it.

The beauty of having a morning ritual is that we have a clear idea of what is going to happen soon as we wake up. It lessens the overthinking about future concerns because when we have a set of activities laid out for the day, this leads us into a mindset that the day is ours and we are somehow in control.

I recommend you start with morning rituals, maybe two or three activities which you will be willing to commit to. It doesn’t have to be productive, it can be as simple as, 10-jumping jacks, morning coffee, and then shower. That’s it, three-morning activities that will serve as a walking stick for us to start the day.

2. Help yourself improve

This one I’ve pondered for a long time but I came to a conclusion that setting aside activities that will help us improve ourselves will help in alleviating anxiety. Why? I think because it all boils down to the basics, that humans are the most evolved species on the planet and it is in our DNA to keep growing, to keep expanding, and to keep learning new things, adjusting whenever the need arises.

You don’t necessarily have to enroll in an online class, although if that is what you want then that is a good idea. I suggest you start with something small, something that’s just natural for us to be doing while spending time inside our homes like for example, spending three hours on Youtube. Why not instead of clicking-through cat videos, you give yourself a chance to watch a culinary show or something about DIY home decors, or if you’re feeling it, TED Talks.

When I resigned from my corporate job back in 2018, I was in shock for a while because it was the single most, terrifying decision I have ever done up to date. For a couple of weeks, I would just stay inside my apartment, staring blankly at the ceiling, making friends with shadows on my wall — literally from the lyrics of the song Unwell by Matchbox Twenty.

It was an emotional disaster until I decided to control things a little bit. I began watching craft videos and somehow they led me to crochet tutorials and the next thing I knew I was on fire, launching a crochet blog on Instagram and connecting with potential clients who would be willing to pay me in exchange for handmade crochet bikinis and it felt good. It was as if a new trail appeared in front of me, something that I can follow and prevent me from walking in circles.

3. Exhale, breathe it out

Writing a journal is one of those activities that I am personally struggling with even now. The reason is that when I try to write things down about my day, I feel like my hands are slowing me down. Soon as I decide to sit down, grab a pen, and write my thoughts, words flood out, and with me writing, my hands can’t keep up and eventually I stop.

So I tried another way, e-journal, in which I simply open a blank document on my laptop and I type.

Whenever we are filled with so much thought about the things in our life, past, and future, we are somehow on a prolonged inhaling. We keep acquiring and nurturing ideas that are most of the time, negative and stressing us out. Remember, a person can only take so much.

We need to exhale, to breathe things out and one of the best ways how to do it is to give our thoughts form, shape, color, to capture them into words.

Have you tried writing a journal or perhaps it never crossed your mind? One of the best bloggers I absolutely love is Lavendaire. If you want to learn more about self-discovery, her blog is the best place to be, or you can choose to watch her videos, which I do most of the time.

Final Thoughts

Self-control, self-discipline, or however you want to call it most of the time is a terrifying word for the anxious people because it demands commitment. This is one thing that an emotionally driven person would find difficult to sustain.

The trick here lies in how well you know yourself. If example you want to workout but the gym is a place full of people and sounds intimidating for you, then do so at home. If the exercise routine is too boring then play a song of Black Pink, dance to it. Getting in shape is not limited to signing up for a gym membership.

Routine, as they say, is deadly and discipline is a word we associate with things that we grudgingly have to stay committed to, but there are ways around it. We don’t have to copy exactly what others do. Do what is working for you, and you will see that discipline is not a stiff word after all, routine if turned into calm-inducing rituals is not deadly. Stick to staying who you are. You, do you.

Sending you a warm hug today. Lovelots.


Hello! Thank you for reading this from The Mindful Modus.

My name is Princess of The Mindful Modus, a blogger on a mission of helping people develop a healthy approach to work and life by incorporating mindful practices to everyday, mundane self care routines. All the contents of my blog are decaf-initely free but a coffee can greatly help me stay awake! Thank you so much!

49 thoughts on “3 Self Control Activities To Ease Your Anxiety

  1. This blog is so simple and so packed with information and I personally loved it. All the words needed to be said were written here no more and no less and I appreciate it because as a person who easily gets anxious, I have to take in things little by little or take things slow, as simple as it can be in order to improve, and your blog is literally it and literally has the necessary things needed. I will surely take this advice from you, thanks so much for this post. ❤ 🙂

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    1. Aww!! You’re so sweet! Thank you so much for the kind words! I sincerely appreciate this. I’m happy I have you in this community Elle! Truly! Also, I too am learning from your posts! Wishing you well ❤️

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  2. Whenever we are filled with so much thoughts about the things in our life, past and future, we are somehow on a prolonged inhaling. We keep acquiring and nurturing ideas which are most of the time, negative and stressing us out.

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    That is the story of my life… if one stressor gets resolved, I create another one and the cycle continues… I feel so tired thinking because my (unreal) problems don’t seem to end, I try diverting my thoughts but whenever I am quiet, they come back again 😦 I haven’t thought much about self-control but perhaps I should take these points into consideration … thank you for sharing ❤️

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    1. Hello, thank you for reading this post, I appreciate it. I’m glad to be of help to you. These are confusing times and without support, it is difficult to get through each day. I find writing down things that stress me out, before I go to bed relieves some tension. By capturing the swirls of negative thoughts and pinning them into words, I am able to face directly what those thoughts are. I hope this helps. Wishing you well ❤️

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    1. Hello, thank you so much for reading this post! Yes, I’ve thought about that too, I agree with you. I’ve initially included breathing exercises in my list, but because I don’t practice it myself I made a decision to remove it. I’m thinking of joining in, slowly practice mindful breathing but I don’t know where to start! Might have to do more research. Have a nice day Pooja! Thanks for dropping by ❤️

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  3. I’ve always thought of keeping an e-journal, but sometimes I find it rather draining for my mind that it made me discontinue. However, keeping an e-journal never got out of my mind so I might start doing it again. Also, ((this is rather personal)) but I would to soon start my blogging full-time but I don’t have anyone to talk to about it since there are only a few people who blog nowadays.

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    1. I agree with you, in the process yes, it is draining. I compare writing a journal somewhat similar to crying. Pouring out our emotions is tiring, exhausting, but afterwards when we’re finished, it feels good, calming even. The only challenge is staying committed to it. Even I find it hard to write everyday. *You’re actually the second person to mention about blogging to me! I get you there, I too want to monetize my blog. Unfortunately I’m not there yet. I recommend you check out The Art of Blogging by Cristian Mihai, he posts tons of helpful tips for bloggers who want to improve and ultimately monetize their blog. I hope this helps!

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  4. Wow! I wish I have the same courage when you passed on that resignation letter. I’ve been thinking about doing it as well for quite some time now because I think I’m feeling burned out by work. It’s actually the reason why I started blogging. It might be a rash decision, but I’m trying my best to write and do it daily since it helps with my anxiety too. Will do the morning routine tip you shared and see the difference it’s gonna make. I’m really glad to stumble into your blog.

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    1. Hello, thank you so much for reading this post. Actually it took me 1 year before I made the decision. It was a risky move, and as much as possible I don’t recommend doing it. Especially now in this pandemic, having a stable income is a priority. I can only, honestly recommend that move if, you feel that you are on the verge of snapping. Back then, I was already on the edge, I was not talking to anyone in the office. I was going more than 5 times a day to the bathroom just to cry, my absences were piling up, I stopped showing up on time- my time in was always after lunch. At one point, I was asked to re-do a project and I smacked my mouse on the table so hard, I was shaking in anger that my senior passed the project to someone else. It was a tough time, I lost the sense of having respect to my co-workers even to my seniors. I don’t know exactly your situation is but, blogging is a great outlet for our emotions. I can only suggest that you listen to yourself more, and weigh the pros and cons. Maybe start by having more ‘me’ time. Find out the root of the problem, why are you feeling burned out. I hope I was able to help you in some way. God is good. Keep the faith. ❤️

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      1. Thank you for sharing your personal experience here. I can relate to that feeling you’ve shared. My absences were also piling up already and it’s getting harder to convince myself to get up and do my job. But yes, with the instability this pandemic brings, it’s harder to resign from work that’s why I decided to start writing, also to look for blogs and some blogging community to share works and experiences with. 🙂

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      2. I hope I can hug you right now. Things are tough but sometimes, we have to clench our fist and fight with our all. I hope you stay strong, Engr. V. ❤️ Please do. ❤️

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  5. Wish there was a way around the negative and/or boring associations to the words “discipline,” “routine,” “habit,” and “commitment,” but they will always be a little bit scary at first.

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    1. Hello, thank you so much for reading this post and sharing your thoughts about it! That’s so true, it’s a common reaction for people to take a step back when they come across ‘discipline’ and ‘commitment’. However, if we think about it, these words are what will actually help us gain control over our lives. Have a good day! ❤️

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