3 Effective Ways How To Handle A Snob

What is a SNOB?

: one who tends to rebuff, avoid, or ignore those regarded as inferior or;

: one who has an offensive air of superiority in matters of knowledge or taste

(source – Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

Why Are Some People Snobbish?

Simple. They are stepping on a higher pedestal, or feel like it. Most of the time they have an excessive sense of self-worth brought by family status, hobbies, interests, connections with professionals or politicians but from my personal experience, even someone from the masses can be snob, even a person who came from a simple family can be a snob. This can happen when a person who once was made to feel inferior is now sitting on higher ground.

When I was in high school I felt I was an outsider, coming from a private school and then transferring to a public school. It’s as if my presence, was a threat to a group of classmates who “ruled” among everyone. So for every passing day until graduation, every move I make is either foolish or worthy of gossiping about.

When I got into college, I took an engineering degree. I met new people, found new friends, and discovered that hey, I am not a second-banana after all. For one thing, nobody from “the group” took the same degree as I did and I felt superior to some extent.

Snobbishness may have its origins very early in life, when schoolchildren form friendships and cliques inevitably form around certain groups. There’s a natural tendency to see people from outside our own group (the “outgroup”) as inferior to people within our group (the “ingroup”), even if the divisions between the groups are arbitrary. People on your street may live in houses very similar to those on my street, but because they’re from your street, I see them as inferior. Even though there’s no rational reason, people seem to be very ready to develop a tribe mentality that’s hard to shake.

Source. psychologytoday.com

Now, nearing my thirties I realized that projecting to others the negative experiences we had is a response that we cannot solely attribute to the events that took place. Reasoning something like, I became a snob because I was a victim of snobbishness is childish, because whatever environment we immerse ourselves in there is always a choice, a choice to adapt to conform, to resist. We are accountable for our actions.

People become snobs not solely because of experience but also because they chose to become one. We cannot go out and about saying, we are like this because of what happened to us because at the end of the day, life does not make you. You make life as it is.

Here I have rounded up effective ways how we can handle the snob people in our lives.

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1. Don’t Respond

By not responding you create an invisible boundary wall where the snob could not get in. The snob then would not be able to establish superiority. Though this does not mean you can deflect and not feel inferior because you still will, but by not responding, you do not give the snob the satisfaction.

2. Stay Away

Practice social distancing so the virus doesn’t get you.

3. Confide to a Trusted Person / Write a Journal

Writing a journal and expressing ourselves in written words is a generally-known tool to alleviate the heavy whirl of emotions we are carrying. It eases the flow of tension and releases emotional blockage. It relieves frustrations and it gets us to listen to our present. It clarifies what we are feeling right now compared to what we were feeling before we started writing. It is a mindful activity in which we can separate past feelings and future concerns from the present, from the now.

Have you ever met a snob person?


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15 thoughts on “3 Effective Ways How To Handle A Snob

  1. ‘Hurt people, hurt people’ – so true. I feel like that’s where the majority of snobby attitude in many people comes from. Once you get through the exterior, there’s always some sort of negative experience that made a person change this way. I’m convinced that people who are content with themselves have no desire to bring anyone else down. Great post, thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️

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  2. This is such a reality. Snobs are everywhere. I had a similar experience at school. Used to be bullied and had to deal with seniors who were snobs. Then tried to change myself and for a certain point in time felt superior than all. But as I began gaining more perspective around, I started changing. Lovely post indeed.

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    1. Hello, thank you for the kind words! Yes, it’s sad how prevalent this situation is. I don’t know if it’s good that some people can resonate with me in this post. Anyway, sure I will check out your blog! I appreciate you dropping by, wish you well!

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  3. That line ‘hurt people, hurt people’ has to be on books and mugs for a strong reminder. This is a very guiding post because all of us come across snobs atleast once during our life and more so during our years of schooling becuase that’s when we’re more vulnerable and easily deceived to think we arent better than someone else’s opinion. Good tips!

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  4. I know there are already enough comments saying this, but I’ll say it anyway. I love the line “Hurt people, hurt people”‘ Everyone knows it for a fact, but I haven’t seen anyone phrase it that way. I admire the way you bring inspiration from your life’s stories to write your blogposts ❤ I've dropped you a follow ❤ ❤
    Shreya| https://shreyarantswithpurpose.wordpress.com/

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    1. Hello, oh no your comment was included in the spam folder, I’m sorry about that! This maybe a late reply, but I’ll still respond anyway. Thank you for reading this post and reaching out. Also, thank you for pointing out that I reference my post based on my personal experiences, because for me, when we go through struggles, we learn lessons along the way, and lessons are always, always meant to be shared. Thank you so much and wish you well ❤️

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  5. I have been facing that problem as well. A lot of my comments are getting sent to spam directly. Must be a problem with WordPress.

    Very true. Most of the lessons we learn in life and learned the hard way, by experience. Learning from others’ experiences reduces life’s difficulties tremendously. Thank you for sharing your experience 🙂

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